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I do not want to be in a relationship, realised that with my rather short relationship I had this spring.
I just felt trapped and choked, I liked her but I guess I was not ready yet.
On the other hand I would love to have a good single life, but unfortunately I am not sufficiently pushing. That is really a problem as every guy is very hitting on girls agressively at the parties I attend. It feels like a competition and I do not like that. :P
And yes, I can count the people I have kissed on one hand, actually on three fingers:
My girlfriend in third to fifth grade, a girl in my school last spring (which I regretted, she scared the shit out of me) and my last girlfriend I mentioned earlier.
Hodor, hodor hodor hodor. Hodor hodor? - Hodor
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Main problem: I've become a bit of a commitment-a-phobe. The whole heartbreak twice by the same person really fucked me over.
yes, me too.
the thing i've been having with this guy has been going on for a year and we've never actually been in a relationship, just "dating" or "being friends" or fucking each other senseless. i've been in love with him the whole time and he's just unable to settle down with anyone.
i'm wasting time here, i realise i'm not giving anyone else a chance while i'm involved with him in any way. at the moment we're "friends" and agreed not to have sex anymore. still, as he is one of my best friends around here it's impossible to get over him, we're talking every day and he lives next door and we're bumping into each other everywhere.
there have been guys coming on to me several times the last two weeks at parties and i've just dismissed them with a few words and a smile. i prefer laughing and talking and drinking with him to new people. besides, we've agreed not to pull anyone in the presence of the other, it would be extremely painful to see for the both of us.
love sucks.
i hate being alone.
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^I guess that's hard. Still, having a friendly relation with your ex is much better than hate in my opinion. I still talk to my ex a little now and then, I don't know if she has got over it as I broke up. Still, we are pretty good friends.
Hodor, hodor hodor hodor. Hodor hodor? - Hodor
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^ yeah, absolutely. no point in hating the other unless they've done something really shitty to you. in our situation not being in civilised terms would affect our friends' lives too much as well - most of my friends in here are his friends too and vice versa and it would get really awkward if they had to pick sides and if we weren't able to go to same parties. we've been there too, it sucked.
yet it'd probably be better not to be too close with my ex, it's harder to rid myself of the unwanted feelings when we're having heart to heart conversations alone. then again, three months of no contact at all did nothing to make the longing and feelings disappear, so i guess keeping a distance is useless anyway.
i can't help being happy about having him in my life anyway. one of the few people who know practically everything about me and are still there for me and with whom i can be completely myself. yes, it's hard.
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My bf is a sweetie - most of the time. But believe me, there are times that I want to strangle him.
This is the last time Ill abandon you and this is the last time Ill forget you
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^ yeah, absolutely. no point in hating the other unless they've done something really shitty to you. in our situation not being in civilised terms would affect our friends' lives too much as well - most of my friends in here are his friends too and vice versa and it would get really awkward if they had to pick sides and if we weren't able to go to same parties. we've been there too, it sucked.
yet it'd probably be better not to be too close with my ex, it's harder to rid myself of the unwanted feelings when we're having heart to heart conversations alone. then again, three months of no contact at all did nothing to make the longing and feelings disappear, so i guess keeping a distance is useless anyway.
i can't help being happy about having him in my life anyway. one of the few people who know practically everything about me and are still there for me and with whom i can be completely myself. yes, it's hard.
Exactly how our situation is. We have the same friends and that is why we meet regurlarly. :P
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Mine is non-existent. Partay.
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lekim :
Mine is non-existent. Partay.
Aye, me too.
I love this thread.
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DorDor :
Exactly how our situation. We have the same friends and that is why we meet regurlarly. :P
heh 
meeting regularly because of a mutual circle of friends is cool.
i'm not so sure if it's wise to do more than that - i have no idea why we're talking every day on msn or irc and getting all touchy-feely when drunk to have private conversations. it's risky. then again, we've always been more than a bit daft with each other. we'd miss each other.
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Okay, well we are not that close. We still have to work our friendship up a bit, but meeting isn't awkward anymore at least. 
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Mine is non-existent. Partay.
Aye, me too.
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Mine is actually taking a turn for the better. Am I in the wrong thread?
First things first, but not necessarily in that order.
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That is perfectly normal, I think everyone gets that feeling
lol thanks for making me feel better. /sarcasm
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Mine is actually taking a turn for the better. Am I in the wrong thread?
Yes, gtfo :P
This place is for sad and lonely people such as myself.
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This place is for sad and lonely people such as myself.
This. SO MUCH THIS. Hahah.
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::kicks happy people out of my thread:: 
Just kidding, us pathetic people must be very amusing (annoying?) to those on the other side of things.
BERNADETTE, YOU ARE MY LIBERTY.
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Don't talk about the others. Damn heathens. Although given the chance I'd up and leave with them anytime!
Anyways, I've always found that remaining friends with your ex is always a bad idea. Feelings will always resurface, it just happens. Best thing to do is cut off all contact with them. Not necessarily hate, but it has to be done.
I'm fairly certain my ex hates me from the last conversation we had. But that may have been fake... I honestly don't know with this girl.
I still have some of her stuff, which I want to give back, it's just sitting in my room. But I don't want to text her to ask to meet up to give it to her, because it will be as awkward as fuck, and I'll end up going into relapse for about two weeks...
Such is life.
...the fact that it been chosen makes me thing it`ll be pants and were getting NSC 2. - Me, about Survival.
Its not elitism, some people are just better than others. - Joe.
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I've never been seriously in love with someone to consider anything beyond a normal boyfriend-girlfriend thingy. That's a complain I guess.
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I was hoping after last night that I wouldn't have to join this thread, but alas, here I am.
I'm grand around guys. Being in a class where there are 4 guys to every girl, I have alot of male friends. However, if I like a guy more than as a friend and after a while get any sort of indication that he might like me back, I freak out and avoid him like the plague.
There was one exception. I first got talking to him at a house party two and half years ago. We all though he was a big of a wanker, we later figured out that he was actually a nice guy, just a bit immature. I only really see him at house parties, friend's birthdays & nights out etc. But in the last year we realised that we had the same taste in music, films, same sense of humour. We got along really well so I decided, fuck it, I'll go for it. I figured if it didn't go well, we're in different universities and he lives a few miles away so I wouldn't have to bump into him and have it be all awkward.
It was my friend's birthday last night and we got to the club pretty early. He arrived about half an hour later - with his new girlfriend. Wonderful. And it's my fault, I had several opportunities, I just didn't have the balls to go through with it.
And to make matters worse, besides the intial "oh my god, how are you? Haven't seen you in ages etc.", he pretty much ignored me all night. He's still a friend, I was hoping he didn't turn into one of those people who ditch their friends once they're in a relationship.
So yeah it was a bad night. Didn't help this morning when my neighbour's dog started barking its head off at 6am for 4 hours while I had a really bad hangover.
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Open up your skull, Ill be there...
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And to make matters worse, besides the intial "oh my god, how are you? Haven't seen you in ages etc.", he pretty much ignored me all night. He's still a friend, I was hoping he didn't turn into one of those people who ditch their friends once they're in a relationship.
It might not have been that. At least not fully intentional. Maybe he liked you too, and despite nothing happening, he felt a bit weird spending time with you while he was with the other girl? Not that that helps in any way...
Bring the other girl down!
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Where is my sex life?  can't find it anywhere.
Do I stay with someone who it lovely and sweet but seems to have lost all of his desire to have sex?
Is that shallow? I just wouldn't mind a little bit of comfort more than once or twice a year.
You know I still adore you
But in a different kind of way
You know I still adore you
But things have gotten vague
Baby I dont ask for much but things have gotten convenient
You know I still adore you but things, have kind of changed
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What would Jack Bauer do? He wouldn't sit about moping. He'd save the fucking day. Your lives aren't going to get any better by posting on a forum. Face your problems, Jack Bauer style.
Man up, pussies.
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What would Jack Bauer do? He wouldn't sit about moping. He'd save the fucking day. Your lives aren't going to get any better by posting on a forum. Face your problems, Jack Bauer style.
Man up, pussies.
this post has made my day.......
though the man up part is a little harsh.....
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Where is my sex life? can't find it anywhere.
Do I stay with someone who it lovely and sweet but seems to have lost all of his desire to have sex?
Is that shallow? I just wouldn't mind a little bit of comfort more than once or twice a year.
Talk to him about it? You should be satisfied, too..
I think Im drowning, asphyxiated.
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retardmonkeyfish :
Where is my sex life? can't find it anywhere.
Do I stay with someone who it lovely and sweet but seems to have lost all of his desire to have sex?
Is that shallow? I just wouldn't mind a little bit of comfort more than once or twice a year.
It's not shallow at all. Thinking about your own happiness isn't shallow, or selfish. If you put it entirely before others, then it is. For you, you just want to be happy too.
I'm going to assume you've been together a long time based on you mentioning "once or twice a year". Obviously, things cool down in all relationships, but that seems quite drastic.
If they're still lovely, then it's probably worth talking to them about it. Or if that's too difficult maybe try something to spice it up.
This reminds me of the glory days of Ask Pib...
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